The Anti-Valentine Thread

[flying squirl]

This here thread is for everyone who's single and who's sick of all the happy Valentine’s Day crap that’s been flying around lately.

This thread is a refuge from all the red and pink hearts, the over priced chocolates, gammy roses and the couples eating each other’s faces in cinemas.

Feel free to post about how crap this time of year is for single people and/or how your last gf/bf broke up with you and how you’re feeling atm.

Note: if you don’t feel like reading my rant, don’t read the next bit but do feel free to add your own.

Right, let me kick this thread off by saying I feel like crap. That’s probably why I’ve been making the models at a slower rate. not only do I hate this time of year cuz I have to get up when its dark but its also going to be my first valentine which ill be spending alone in four years. A few months ago my gf of four years broke up with me, it happened that she did this two days before my birthday. She didn’t notice.

To make matters worse I have to get the same bus in the evening as her because we live in the same area and it’s the only one for about 2 hours. The bus journey is about 1-2 hours long and during this time we have to drag the conversation out by filling it with brief snippets about the weather n what not much the same as you fill out silicone with polymer.

lately a girl who I once fancied, but who was very mean to me about it, has struck up contact again after seeing on my bebo that I was single and having spotted me in town. My ex is keen to try set me up with her. It’s stupid and annoying and no matter what I tell her, including "-blam-ing drop it, it’s not going to happen" she just won’t get the point.



Anyhu, I feel like crap and I’m planning on filling that lil empty part with the bottle of absinth I’ve recently come into possession of.

bdw, if anyone who's in a relation ship try’s to convince me that this time of year is great... no threat needed, I’m sure you get the point.

Rant away, my fellow singles

FS

 

[23Magnum]

I feel for ya Squirl.

About 2 years ago I met this girl we hit it off famously, just after Valentine's Day I might add. We dated for about 3 months before she broke up with me the first time. Then about a month later we got back together. After being together about 10 months, I started talking about moving in together, but she wasn't 'ready'. This time last year we celebrated Valentine's Day apart from each other because of this huge snow storm we had here in northern Pennsylvania. We then celebrated our 1 year a couple days later. As another month went by, she started talking to me less and less. We celebrated her 21st birthday around mid-March. I took her out to dinner where she was texting a friend she wanted to meet up with later almost the entire time. This pissed me off as I thought we were suppose to spend the evening together and it was just rude. After that was sorted out, I took her to Old Navy to buy her a present, as I had planned before. Her present was an outfit to wear on St. Patrick's Day when we were to go out. Then, I took her out drinking at the bars she had never been to before. I paid for everything all evening, like I usually do, but I dropped a lot of money that night. Seems shallow of me to worry about that when you talking about someone you love, but she then went out on St. Patrick's Day without me with all her new drinking friends. The next day she wouldn't answer my calls, I got drunk, told her I was coming over, as she was not going to do this to me over the phone AGAIN. She then told me to stay put as she was coming over to 'talk' to me. She broke up with me that night, and everything seemed fine at first. I thought, I'll let her go and she'll realize she still wants to be with me. Well, a week later she met someone new. Cut off all communication with me for a while. I had to go to her parents to find out what was going on and that's when I found out, FROM HER PARENTS, that she was seeing someone already. I told her she was just waiting to turn 21 so she could break up with me. She claimed that we were growing apart. I told her, "No, you're pushing me away! I still feel the same for you!" I told her I hope you'll be happy with this jerk.

They got married the day before Thanksgiving, as he went overseas to Egypt for a year the following Monday.

I spent my Birthday, Christmas, and New Years practically alone just like I had for the 23 years before I met her.

Now, she's destroyed any chance of us ever becoming friends, as we promised each other we would, with her latest actions. Now I loathe the very core of her anymore. She's not the same person I used to know. I say, "I'm finally done with her".

Though, I have found someone since then, it's yet to be seen what will really happen. I'm being very careful this time around. Even being with someone on Valentine's Day isn't all it's made out to be. I hate all the mushy stuff plastered everywhere as well. I guess, I still have some bad memories associated with it all.

Take it easy Squirl. I'll be on Live this weekend a little, and we can take out our frustrations on unspecting noobs.

-Magnum

 

[Razgriz]

I'm single by choice!

But yes, I am sick of all of the crap. It is just another day for Halmark to make lots and lots of money. If you actually do love somebody, why should it there be a day for it? And why the heck is it in such a crappy month?

Well, I don't mind the month too much because I ski, but all of he ran this year near me is washing away all of the snow, so I basically lost a $300.00 ski pass!

 

[AoBfrost]

I'm sick of seeing way too much chemistry.com and match.com commercials on food network and fox news, I hate pajamagram.com commercials and their half nakked woman, I hate the vermont teddy bear commercial and their annoying repetitive tune that plays for 2-3 minutes straight, and I hate valentines day.

I only like the candy that is cleared off for 50% off the next day.

 

[Sigma LS]

Well I'd rather have alll the lovy-dovy fluffy pink hearts stuff than what they tried last year. Valentine's Day as National ED awareness day aka Viagra Day. Yeah, that sets the romantic mood...

 

[AoBfrost]

"congrats men with ED, you cant have a happy valentines day with your wife! But with viagra you can!................But actually since it's already valentines day, and you need a prescription for viagra, you're too late "

Once when I was in third grade, this girl I liked named Brittany.....something.....anyways, she gave me a small box of chocolates, and they were really good, I thought maybe I'd give her it back and be nice, but with different chocolate in it, turns out, that upset her making her think I was giving it back rudely, which then, she hated me for the rest of eternity......:\

 

[drgon47]

For someone you love:

Roses are #FF0000
Violets are #0000FF
All my base
Are Belong to you

For someone you hate:

Roses are Red
Violets are blue
Come over to my place
And I'll give you herpes type two.

(edit this if its too much)

 

[docbytes]

For someone you love:

Roses are #FF0000
Violets are #0000FF
All my base
Are Belong to you

CRACK UP!

Guys I'm not single, I know I suck, but I hear ya. I've been there and all, but I did want you to know.......
I HATE V DAY TOO!!!!! I think it's crap to set a day aside for that kinna thing. Make the singles feel bad day, and a if your not single you better blow all you money day! That's just to much crap, I like to do things for my girl, but not because someone else turns the holiday of a blood bath into a "sweetheart" day!

Rant over.

All our base
Are Belong to me NOW!

 

[paradoxdj]

i'm single, i feel like crap, i'm depressed and this doesn't help.

all my friends have gf but me, and one of them is a real dick about it.

i hate valentines day. if i could i'd spend all of valentines in a box (i like being in boxes, it secludes me from the world and all my problems)

 

[Vexona]

I agree Doc .

I'm engaged, been in a committed relationship for 4 years now, and I'm not crazy about Valentines either. I like the *significance* of the holiday but all the "I WUB U" chalk hearts and stuffed gorilla plushes kinda take the piss out of it (again...gorillas? how is that romantic?).

There's too much forced amor in the air too =\. People who don't even like each other go out on dinners just for the sake of having a date. You'd think it was the line to Noah's ark or something. It's like woah woah calm down, no eye gouging or shoving folks, you have the whole rest of the year to find love.

 

[Skullcandy Girl]

I'm not single either, but I'm in the same boat as Doc and Vex. I think the financial idea of V-day is lame as hell. Who the hell said "If you love this person go buy chocolate and roses ad a diamond incrusted something something". You should love people in your life everyday and show it in the way you feel is the best way. A box of chocolates will make me chubby, roses, eh are cute but meh. It's pretty tacky to flaunt how much you love someone, kinda like 2nd basing it on a sidewalk, kinda rude.

On the flip side of things, being single isn't so bad. When I look back I'm glad I was able to be alone because it gave me time for myself to heal up and get to know who I am. It's a nice to time to treat yourself with a nice dinner, movie, video games or 3D models Don't let this stupid thing make you feel bad about yourself. be happy you are, and take this time to celebrate what you love about yourself

FS, who gives us HD Pepakura models that make us use our O-faces
For our fellow 405th'ers who just need a hug

 

[AoBfrost]

For someone you love:

Roses are #FF0000
Violets are #0000FF
All my base
Are Belong to you

I'm saving this as a note pad document for the future.

I may not have someone to share Valentines day with, but I can sure share 10 bags of chocolate 50-75% off the next day all by myself

 

[drgon47]

You can order it as a t-shirt for men and women off of thingeek . com

 

[AoBfrost]

After reading it again, It can have 2 meanings.

1. All your base are belong to us
2. Base base which people play when dating ;P

 

[SPARTAN II]

I wholeheartedly agree with all of you in that the financial implications of Valentine's Day are an absolute crock. One shouldn't need a particular day or reason to show thier "special someone" just how much they love and care about them. That's something a person should show the other every day that they're together, plain and simple.

As for myself, I've been single for over four years now. Partly by choice, partly not. My last long-term girlfriend, whom I was with for about five years, ended up turning into my first fiance. At the time, it just felt right that I "pop the question" to her, and was so overwhelmingly happy when she said "Yes". It was great and all, but within the last six months of our relationship she decided that what we had wasn't what she wanted at that point.

See, she had just started university (whereas I'd completed my college training a year or so before), and having just turned legal age was just beginning to experience the whole club/bar-hopping scene. I didn't partake in that with her, despite her many offers, as I'd been through that and was done with it. Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt, you know?

I think what led to our eventual break-up was our difference in age (I was four years older), being at different points in our lives, and a growing lack of the same interests. In our case, we really did just grow apart. In the end, it hurt me badly, as I had committed five years of my life to her, and at that point honestly saw myself spending the rest of my life with her.

I truly loved her, the first real love of my life. And I say "loved" her, not "in love" with her. In my opinion, there is a big difference, one being more real and sincere than the other. The funny thing is, everyone else around me could see these changes in her -- subtleties in the way she'd say my name, how she wasn't as affectionate in the last few months, and so on -- but as my feelings for her hadn't changed at all I was blind to it at the time, right until the end.

Now, when I look back on it, it's all so rediculously obvious. All the signs were clearly there, I just couldn't see it for myself. When she did break up with me (it was late one night that June, after we'd gone to bed), I remember how she held me in her arms while I cried. I hadn't cried like that since my mother passed away seven years ago, and I haven't since.

And yes, being a guy I'll admit I cried. There's nothing wrong or shameful in admitting that, as such admissions are a sign of mental and emotional strength, in my opinion. If anyone has a problem with that or would like to make a joke of it, then you can expect to get a virtual fist in the face or kick in the groin. It's not my problem if some guys aren't "man enough" to admit that to themselves.

Anyway, despite all of my friends hating her guts and wishing her dead, and telling me I should feel the same, to this day I have never harboured any harsh feelings or ill will toward her. Throughout our entire relationship, I was always very accepting of letting her do her own thing with friends and what not, and I was never one to put any restrictions on what she could and could not do.

My way of thinking was, it's her life, and she should be allowed to do whatever it is she wants to do, and I always supported her in that. Of course, often times that included me, but other times it didn't, and I was fine with that. I'm not one of those obsessive or posessive types that get jealous and bent out of shape when my girl wants to spend time with friends, rather than devote all of her time and attention to me.

It's because of that perspective that, even when she did end it, I didn't try to overly influence her decision. She's her own person, and if that's what she chooses, then that's her right. I could never, and would never, hold that against her. The way I see it, we both went our separate ways in search of what we wanted in life. There ain't nothing wrong with that.

Personally, I think I lucked out in that I was fortunate enough to get the proper closure I needed in just three months' time after the break-up. After that, I was totally fine with it. It felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders, and I felt so much better about the whole thing with that added peace of mind.

It's been my experience that in many cases, one or both involved don't get the necessary closure to fully come to terms with it and move on. For me, at least there was still enough trust and honesty in the end that she was willing to give me that much.

The whole point to this long-winded spiel being, despite the hardships one may encounter in "matters of the heart", with the right frame of mind a person can actually end up all the better because of it. It can help one to know themselves better, and learn from past mishaps in relationships. As such, the thought of occasions like Valentine's Day shouldn't be such a brooding point for people.

Of course, that sort of insight and light-hearted approach to such matters generally only comes after enough years of living, and experiences in relationships. Someone in thier early to mid teens, no matter how much they may hear words like these, is likely not to realize or understand this for themselves, as they simply don't know enough about such things. I know that's the way I was when I was younger. I remember back then, when a relationship ended, it seemed like the world was coming to an end, LOL.

In the course of the last four years or so, I've tried dating other women, but it just seems to me that many of the women in and around where I am simply aren't up to par with my level of intellect, emotionalism and maturity.

That's not to say I'm a saint or anything, LOL. It's just, based on who I am today, I find it very difficult to find a suitable match in the opposite sex. And although I'll admit there are times where I miss a lot of the "little things" I've had in relationships (Valentine's Day being one of those times), I wouldn't say I'm depressed over it or anything.

One of the major points of contention being, I have yet to find a woman who's understanding and accepting of my prop hobby, LOL. Seems when a woman finds out I make Star Trek and HALO props for fun, they suddenly get the wierdest look on thier face, as if I'm from another planet or something. That's why I need to find myself a good woman who has an interest in and can appreciate such things.

All in good time, though. At this particular juncture, I'm not really putting too much effort into the whole dating/relationship thing. Though most of my friends are in relationships themselves, I'm just enjoying having this time to myself to do what I like to do, and learn more about myself and just where I want to go in life. I've got plenty of close friends and family to keep me company, so it's not like I'm lonely or anything of the sort.

For now, that's good enough for me.

So, bring on Valentine's Day! It won't really be at all different from any other day for me...

 

[flying squirl]

If anyone has a problem with that or would like to make a joke of it, then you can expect to get a virtual fist in the face or kick in the groin.

second that

 

[SPARTAN II]

LOL

 

[23Magnum]

Now, when I look back on it, it's all so rediculously obvious. All the signs were clearly there, I just couldn't see it for myself.

This is where the saying "Hind sight is 20/20" came from ... guaranteed. I know exactly what you mean.

second that

Third...

 

[SpartanForever]

my girlfriend of 2 months broke up with me 3 weeks ago on AIM... that was such BS! And the day she broke up with me i started going out with a girl who really likes me but i only went out with her cause i was hurt and vulerable (i think), then i broke up with her last week. The AIM thing sucked the worst though.

 

[SPARTAN II]

She broke up with you on AIM? Damn, that sucks... that's just as bad as breaking up over the phone (which happened to me once, LOL).

Personally, I've never been one to go on the "rebound". I've never felt the need for it, and I guess have never felt so hurt and vulnerable that it was necessary.

Yes, I've been terribly hurt and vulnerable at times like that, but I've never resorted to trying to find temporary, false security in getting involved with someone else right away.

I mean, the way I see it is, why do that to yourself?

You know it's just an attempt to retain the same sort of intimacy and security you just lost with someone very close to you, and as you eventually realize nothing about it is real, that relationship will very quickly come to an end as well.

So, why set yourself up for possible further heartache when you don't need to?

I apologize if anyone thinks I'm being accusational here. I'm not pointing fingers or anything, that's just the way I see it...