Sniperbaas
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Drakku said:I'd love to throw some woman input in here, but I need to know how old you are. Haha. Because believe me, things she's saying have different meanings depending on how old she is, you know what I mean?
Still in high school years, her attachment to you early on sounds like, at least, it was a matter of her growing close to you and getting the impression that you two were a thing. Dancing is an intimate art, and especially if you did all of your pieces with her, and also spent time with her outside of dancing, you're sending the signals that you want to be with her. That's why she would be upset if you went and danced with someone else, at this age, with hormones goin' crazy, you can almost liken it as cheating on her. Sounds extreme, but girls on the majority have extremely strong emotional roller-coasters throughout high school, me definitely being amongst them, so I'd like to pretend I kinda know what's going on. Hah.
That backstory being explained from a female perspective, which I think is important to try to understand it from her end, this is what I would suggest: she is not done with guys, and especially if she said that to you yourself. That's a I-still-remember-what-you-did excuse. First you need to rebuild the friendship, and you've got plenty of suggestions here in the thread on good ways to do that. The important thing is to not go into this with the goal of dating her. Your goal needs to be reacquainting her with why she liked you in the first place. For the first few times, don't go one on one, bring some mutual friends, if possible. If not, make where you go public places, like to the mall or to the movies. Once you feel the relationship is comfortable, ask her out to a more private place or a more intimate setting, like going to a nice restaurant, seeing a play, etc.
Regardless, I can't emphasize enough that you need to take it slow. When I say 'private' and 'intimate', I'm meaning like somewhere you can pay more attention to her.
Last off, I would advise against trying for this Tanya person. If you're getting the vibe she's not interested, you're getting the vibe for a reason.
And Fluffy, I'm sorry, but I myself would be extremely creeped by that approach. Rofl. Depends on the girl, I guess. But I would advise against doing that.. sounds a little movie-romance. ;] Aka, we need to squeeze an entire month of wooing into 5 minutes. Heh.
We started dancing together when I was in eighth grade, and she was in seventh. Now I'm a junior and she's a sophomore. I think part of why she felt "cheated on", was that in previous years our duo had done really well at competitions (1st overall out of 30 etc), and she may think that my other duo partner will do better than her. (Which is entirely possible as my second duo has better choreography.) There is a possiblity that for much of that time she was just infatuated with me, and didn't really "like" me...
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Nintendude said:I'm 27 and never been in a relationship but I still know enough about them to know how to deal with them. To put it short and sweet it's really not what anyone else thinks but you and her on if you two decide to start dating, your family can have a opinion about it but that does'nt mean you have to follow it.
Thanks, so far, everyone seems to say that my fam. can say what they want, but its my choice. Should've done that before I guess...
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