I don't think either is incredible... I think it's kind of sad. XD
Thank you! I knew I wasn't the only one thinking it!
Guys who have trouble in the dating field, take note. Dsbass knows what he is talking about. I can vouch for basically everything he said and I strongly recommend that you take it to heart. Of course, there are a lot of other ins and outs and nuances that you will have to learn when you interact with the other sex, but this is a good starting place.
I would also add a few general rules to this list for those that are feeling ambitious.
Rule #6 - Learn to be a little emotional.
For the most part, women think with their hearts and men think with their minds. I truly believe that both ways are wrong and that a fine balance must be found by both sexes. That being said, guys, you are going to need to show a little emotion. Watch a few chick flicks. Learn to appreciate them. You don't have to enjoy them per se, but you should enjoy the time being spent with her and making her happy. Don't be gay (that'll be a turnoff to any decent girl), but don't be hard and emotionless either. Tell her how you feel. If you are hurt, let her know. If you are thrilled, same thing. If you love her (make sure you do before you do this), let her know ALL THE TIME. I would say that saying it daily in not enough. Tell her often about how she steals your breath when she walks in the room. Be spontaneous and romantic about it. Many girls, if not most, identify themselves by the mate that they choose. I can't tell you that I fully understand what is going on their heads, but I will tell you that it will thrill them to know how much they thrill you.
Rule #7 - Compliment her LOTS!
Girls can feel very insecure and will always appreciate any compliments you give her. If you are taking her on a date and waiting for her to get ready, and she walks downstairs decked out in a gorgeous dress and her hair and makeup are beautifully done, LET HER KNOW THAT YOU LIKE IT! She did it for you, not because she enjoys meticulously preparing for hours! Let her know how beautiful she is and tell her often throughout the night. Don't just do it on her looks. If she has a good idea, compliment her! If she performs well at something, compliment her. Your compliments will give her confidence and she will like you even more for them.
Rule #7 - Learn how to have a damned conversation.
I really like Dsbass's rule #2. You need to be able to hold conversation and you need to be able to do it about things that matter (Sorry guys, Halo really does not matter). Watch Fox News. Learn about what is going on with the world. Do a little research and educate yourself. I promise you, if she has any substance to her, you will impress her. Guys, she is going to want to talk to you about EVERYTHING. If you don't know how to do it back, you are going to be miserable. Take a speech class. Start piping up during the debates in your history class. This is a foot stomper!
Rule #8 - Guys, this one is a little difficult to grasp. You need to protect her. I know that sounds simple, but just you wait. I don't mean protect her physically (although I beg you to learn how to do so with both fists and firearms). You have to protect her financially and emotionally. That is an all encompassing statement that deserves a book rather than a paragraph, but I will try to explain what I have figured out. Making sure that she will be financially cared for is a big one. She will actually physically hurt if you get married and you cannot provide for her. If you are about to be evicted and you can't pay to feed her and your children, she is not going to be very turned on by you. That leads to another one. Guys, learn how to deal with your damn finances. She should not have to balance the checkbook, and if she does, she will lose a VAST amount of respect for you. I'm not saying that she should not know how to because I believe that everyone should. I am saying that, when you make sure that the financial stuff is taken care of, she will feel protected and happy.
That brings us to protecting her emotionally. While the financial one is more applicable when you are married, this one is constant. One thing that will thrill a girl is that you will side with her whether she is right or wrong. Never take sides against her in any argument with a third party. If she is wrong in a situation, be classy and excuse both of yourselves and then, while assuring her that you are on her side, let her know what she has done that was wrong and do it gently. If you side against her publicly, she will feel betrayed. Another situation to consider, girls have a weird telepathic way of communicating with each other that men are totally oblivious to. I am still learning about this, but imagine that you go to a party with your gal and some girls walk up. They are extremely nice to you and are laughing at your jokes and are having a good time. Suddenly, you notice that your girl is stiffening up and she is not having a good time, despite the setting of a few people talking and laughing. What you didn't know is that the reason those girls came up to you and are being so charming is that they are trying to hurt your girl. They are trying to rob your attention away from her and onto themselves. I can't exactly tell you why they would do that, but I know from talking to several girls that females can be especially nasty and cruel and they will be very underhanded about it... like hurting your girl by stealing your attention from her. I would suggest that if you ever find yourself in that situation, put your arm around her and hold her close. Pay attention to her. If the catty girls ask you a question, answer and then turn to your girl and ask her what she thinks. Make it obvious to everyone in the room that you are more interested in what she has to say than you are in what they have to say. In lulls in the conversation, draw her close, tell her that you love her and plant a kiss right on her lips in front of everyone. You have no idea how much that will thrill her.
Rule #8 - You Don't Want Them All!
This is an extension of #5. Dr. Laura Schlessinger came out with a book called
10 Stupid Things Men Do To Mess Up Their Lives. I recommend it for everyone, but there is a chapter in it called Stupid Chivalry. Guys, let me start this by saying that I am a huge believer in Chivalry and I constantly try to uphold its standards in my life. That being said, stupid chivalry is bad. When she says that, she is talking about the phenomenon when a guy finds a girl that he likes that is weak, flaky, damaged, needy, desperate, stupid, untrustworthy, immature, etc. and thinks that he can save her and ultimately transform her through their love. Sorry guys, it does not work like that. Not only will you fail to save her, but she will make you extremely unhappy and will actually bring you down in whatever area she is lacking. If you see a girl who is one of the above, please move on. She will need to deal with those issues herself before she enters any meaningful relationship.
That is all that I have for now. Guys, if you get nothing else from this, remember just one thing. Girls are different from us. They do not think like us and they do not feel like us. Don't make the mistake of thinking that they do. There will be times that you will think that your girl is on drugs (she technically is as her body is pumping more drugs through her veins than a meth addict). It's okay and it will pass. The only thing that we can do is forgive them and try to learn.
Girls, please feel free to jump in and correct or add to anything I or Dsbass has said. I would love to hear your opinions and your thoughts.
Your rule #3:
FRACK no... Reading this 'rule' actually made me mad... BOYS! WE ARE NOT YOUR MOTHERS!! We don't want to have to TRY and teach you something you already know. We're not maids either. I can guarantee no girl wants to be picking up, dressing, feeding, etc after their bf. I know, I'm freaking in this boat, and it drives me insane. While once in a while is ok and cutesy whatever, doing it all the time, literally just turns us into your mother. DO NOT WANT! Follow this rule and make your gf iron your shirts and make you a sandwich while you play Halo, and you'll be single real damn quick. If your so called 'nerdy' gf doesn't want to be playing Halo WITH you, then you didn't pick a good one.
Personally, I'd MUCH rather be playing Halo than teaching my bf how to clean up after himself.
Girls are pretty good at finding something to do to keep us entertained; we don't need to have a relationship turn into a job.
This was posted while I was typing, so I didn't have a chance to read it before I posted. I definitely agree that guys need to clean up their crap and need to know how to take care of themselves. Really, Hyoken is right when she says that your partner is not your mother! But I think that the point that DSbass was making was not to turn your gf into a maid, but to let her teach you things that you do not know, such as ironing a wrinkle out, so that YOU can do it in the future, not her. To be honest, I think any self respecting guy should know how to iron their shirt in the first place, but I think that the point, that girls want to improve the good qualities in their men, is the same. Would you agree with that?
unless I get some scissors and...CHOP!
